Child custody negotiations are sometimes contentious matters, but it’s imperative that both parents remember that the goal of the process is to do what’s best for the children. Preparing for the mediation process can help you do this.

One of the primary things that you should do ahead of time is to prepare your facts. Chances are good that you and your ex aren’t going to agree on everything related to custody. Pick the points that you feel strongly about and come up with the reasons things should trend your way. You need facts, not just feelings when you do this.

Remember, the child custody case isn’t the place to attack your ex. Unless there was abuse of some form, there is very little chance that what transpired between you and your ex should have any impact on what happens with the children. In fact, you shouldn’t try to badmouth your ex at all during the custody matters, even if you go before the judge. A person who was a terrible spouse can still be a wonderful parent.

When you’re trying to come up with the specific terms of the parenting plan, remember that you need to try to remove any ambiguous wording because you don’t want any questions to come up later about what something means. This plan should have all the information necessary to govern the child custody situation.

While many parents can work out the terms of the deal during mediation, there is a chance that some may have to go to court for a judge to issue the order. This is a difficult situation, but you should remember that doing what’s best for the children is always the goal of the custody matters.